Most of our competition, in my humble opinion, surrounds men. We compete to get male attention, or to keep male attention. Don’t tell me high heeled shoes are for us.
There’s nothing wrong with looking good. I try to look my best, too. So I’m not saying we should all just let it go, but looking at each other as mutually beautiful creatures instead of competition could change a lot for us.
I think writers are naturally competitive–although less with our looks and more with our professional accomplishments. Still, I think the theory applies.
I’ve been practising a different outlook for a couple of years now. When I see another author who has achieved the thing I want most (at the moment,) I pray, “God, thank you for blessing her. Please also remember me.”
Because there is room for more than one beautiful, successful, accomplished woman. In any sphere. If we stop being competition, we become community.